I was living in NYC and got an acting gig in Philadelphia. A week into being there my cast dragged me out to go sing karaoke. Moriah was there, as a costume designer she was with HER cast. She sang total eclipse of the heart AND she would like to think “eclipsed my heart” HOWEVER it was her whit and humor (along with beauty) that won me over in the end. I had recently gotten out of a long standing relationship and wasn’t looking for love but she knew that I would come around and that she was worth it. And she was right.
As for the proposal I knew she had a huge connection with Pan. She had also dropped the hint “Well YOU ARE ALWAYS into making a big production IF YOU DID propose I am sure it would be over the top.”…wow..okay…way to raise the bar real high. So if she was going to do THAT… I was going to knock it over the moon.
SO when you say the proposal is about the GROOM..well YES I had a film buddy document it and a camera taking pictures and my friend waiting with a Wendy gown…SO YES, those are theatrical elements. BUT she is in the theater, I am also in the theater and SHE loves Pan. Granted I was IN Peter Pan when things got a little more committed BUT it was HER deep love of Pan that inspired me to get those leaves back on 🙂 It was HER mom and HER best friends that came to the boat that day. YES my future groomsmen showed, but i would say the EVENT was for her and the PRODUCTION was my doing.
I guess anyone has a hard time saying ANYTHING is ABOUT THEM. When my desire that made me sick with nervousness was to GIVE Moriah the best proposal ever, it is hard to think it was ABOUT ME. Granted, everyone that day is cheering you on and making sure you are not going super crazy (even though YOU ARE).
The Proposal Set Up:
Although Moriah can always tell a story better than I can (she says) I have a few more details on the setting up of the story. Let me first say that proposing to this woman is the best thing I have ever done. That being said it stressed me out doing it! In the best way.
As an actor, I was actually on a film shoot in Central Pennsylvania the weekend I had planned it. The shoot was running long and the crew asked if I could be there an extra day or two to get all my shots. I told them NO I AM SUPPOSED TO PROPOSE TO MY LADY TOMORROW. Sufficed to say they got my shots done that day.
In planning, I was thinking out loud with some friends of how to propose to her. “What if I got the Peter Pan costume from the play I was in and come to her window!?” My friends shot the idea down of ME, in disguise, climbing to a second story window at night in South Philadelphia. “You will be shot, arrested or both,” they said. Well that ended that. “If only I could find a Jolly Roger, a PIRATE SHIP to come down from on high and propose to her.” I have always been one to dream big but I never thought I could find a ship like this. My friend’s Ashley’s eyes lit up.
“My dad works in nautical adhesives,” she said.
“What? Boat glue?”
“Boat glue. He works in boat glue and has donated a large amount to help this floating historical Spanish Tall Ship “The Gazella” to remain operational! It is a long shot because they sail all up and down the east coast but I will find out.”
I will always go with a long shot. A week passes, I desperately want to propose June 25th (fourth of july and fireworks are her favorite) because we would be going to her home in Ohio and I wanted her grandmother and mother to see the ring… I got the call. “Chris you are welcome to come aboard and propose to your wife to be. We happen to be docking in Philadelphia the weekend before fourth of July would that work?”
“…uh, wow, yup, that would work fine.”
“One problem Chris we do have an event on that boat that evening.”
“Oh, no, uh, wait can we still do it? What is happening?”
“Well we are inviting people on board to watch the fireworks that will be fired off of a barge not far from the boat that night.”
“I uh… think we can make that work. I guess I will propose at sunset and then we will watch fireworks.”
“Sounds like a pretty good plan to me Chris.”
And that’s what happened.